Saturday, April 18, 2009

My Love

Have I ever told you about my husband? He's freaking incredible! You know how in Ephesians 5, husbands are commanded to love their wives just as Christ loves the church? Ryan does that. He loves me so deeply and so unconditionally. I know myself pretty well, and this is no small thing.

Ryan's not only a great husband, he's a great dad. He continually sacrifices sleep, clean shirts and my sole attention all for the sake of his children. All day long, Sylas asks for his "Dada," and why wouldn't he? Dada is his jungle gym and his wrestling partner. Oh, and Little Ives, she's captured her daddy's heart. Future admirers are going to be shakin' in their boots.

Of course Ryan isn't perfect. Not a one of us are. As a couple, we've gone through our ups and downs, but fighting for our marriage has been so worth it! I am so in love with my husband and every day I want that love to grow, but any of you who have been married for any length of time, know that this doesn't just happen. We have to work at it. Love is a choice. While I definitely enjoy the warm fuzzies of love, I don't always feel "in love." As a woman, this is difficult. Most of us are so driven by our emotions, that it's hard to separate fact from fiction. While I always am in love with Ryan, lately I haven't been feeling very in love. Is this because Ryan is doing things differently, or is it because I'm tired, overwhelmed with all of life's changes and still trying to shed the last little bit of Ivy's previous residence? I don't want to be a wife who's swayed by every emotion and every twist in the road, but a wife who responds and acts out of love even when I don't feel like it.


  1. Hang in there. Sounds like you need a date night to escape mommyhood for just a little while. Praying for you and your dear family from Texas tonight.

  2. You've put my own thoughts into words. Being a mother is NOT easy. Our 4 year old has autism which presents it's own set of problems and our youngest is 10 months old and has been sick a lot the last couple months with some respiratory stuff, so sleeping has been hard to come by. I also am so thankful for a husband that loves ME unconditionally. Thanks for a great post.

  3. You are not alone. God is so faithful and will bless your choices even when your feelings aren't there. Love is a commitment and choice, not always a feeling; but oh how great is it when they both are in unison! I will be praying for God to bring back that lovin feelin! Trust in the Lord and choose even when you don't feel like it.
    Love, a sister in Him

  4. I don't even know you (but have followed your story) but that was SUCH an encouraging post and a honest message I totally needed to hear. Thanks for sharing because I feel like I just keep hearing about the extremes--being totally in love or totally out of it (all depending on circumstances and feelings) and not about the choice part or not being swayed by our feelings.


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