Thursday, March 5, 2009

Rockabye Baby

Our feisty little Ivy is two months old today and let me tell you, I love having a girl. I'm so into the pink and the frills. Hopefully she won't hate me when she's older.


It's been fun to watch her personality develop. Little Ives is very serious and her most common expression is a scowl, but just yesterday she was so close to giving us her first smile. She's also very good at letting us know what she wants, and what she wants is to be held all the time. So, we oblige. I'm not at all into the crying it out method. I know this works for some parents, but Ryan and I have found that attachment parenting works the best for our family. One of the reasons is that we believe infants cry for a reason (even if that reason is just to be held), and at two months of age they're not trying to be manipulating or controlling. Their cry signals a legitimate need and as parents Ryan and I are the ones God has chosen to meet those needs.

Plus, look at that face....


How could we resist?

It's not to say that attachment parenting is the easiest route. It's extremely draining and sometimes frustrating, but it's oh so rewarding. Soon enough she'll be crawling this way and that and won't want to be rocked to sleep and I'll miss the days of her being most content in my arms.


I read a beautiful poem the other day and it gave me the encouragement I need to keep rocking my baby, cuz babies don't keep.


Song for a Fifth Child

Mother, oh Mother, come shake out your cloth,
Empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
Hang out the washing, make up the bed,
Sew on a button, and butter the bread.

Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She's up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.

Oh, I've grown shiftless as Little Boy Blue
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo

The shopping's not done and there's nothing for stew
And out in the yard, there's a hullabaloo
But I'm playing Kanga and this is my Roo
Look! Aren't his eyes the most wonderful hue?
Lullabye, rockabye, lullabye loo

The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I've learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; dust go to sleep!
I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep.

11 comments:

  1. I love the poem, thanks for posting it! I also follow attachment parenting principles, and it is hard! My 14 month old daughter still wakes once or twice a night to breastfeed. But know one night she will just keep sleeping, and that will be ok and sad at the same time. Ivy is very cute, congrats again!

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  2. She's just precious! I'm SO happy for your sweet family.

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  3. Is that what the kids are calling it these days, "attachment parenting." That's what I did for Moses and he is the most loving and cuddly kid ever. He went through a phase where I had to rock him to sleep every night when he was like 10 months. But now he goes to bed soooooo easily. We just lay him in there and tell him how much we love him and he goes to sleep. Sometimes I ask him if he wants to take a nap and he walks over to his bed!! He's amazing! So, keep on holding Ivy, she deserves it!

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  4. she looks so cute in the pink outfit..... the poem was really cute to.... i liked it.... good choice :)

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  5. Teresa (Wisconsin)March 6, 2009 at 11:08 PM

    You are wise...baby days are short. We did not know about or do attachment parenting with our oldest, who is now almost 21, and I so regret it. His special needs could very much have benefitted from it, and from the security it gives a little one.

    Ivy is young enough that she would probably adapt well to a sling. Our last three were sling babies. Putting a fussy baby into the sling often quickly calmed him, and even lulled him to sleep! You can learn a lot about slings at http://www.kangarookorner.com/
    That's where I bought my last one.

    William Sears books are also very good, especially The Fussy Baby, and also The Baby Book.

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  6. I absolutely love your philosophy on parenting. I totally agree. And wow, do you EVER have an adorable little Miss Ivy! I LOVE HER! ;)

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  7. Oh Brianna - I am soooo thrilled to hear that you and Ryan are doing attachment parenting! I am so against the 'crying it out method'! Attachment parenting is A LOT of work - Liam still wakes up in middle of the night needing to nurse just as a comfort - but one day it will be over - so I treasure each moment even though I am exhausted!
    I have quite a few books also if you are interested on attachment parenting that helped ... and a few on no-cry sleeping also:)
    I also carried Liam all the time - the sling was great!
    Hope I get to see you soon.
    Tina

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  8. You are doing the right thing, going by your motherly instincts. Mothers know what is best for their baby. I cannot understand how anyone can advise a mother to let her baby cry anyway. It breaks your heart. To my way of thinking it's cruel. I never let mine cry. I couldn’t bear it. I hugged them all the time and let them fall to sleep in my arms. They have all grown into healthy, happy, successful and most importantly, very loving people. Sylas and Ivy will thrive beautifully on your loving care.

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  9. We don't know each other, I believe you might have been college classmates with my cousin. Your story is amazing and inspirational. Sylas and Ivy are absolutely adorable, congratulations!

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  10. I'm not sure if you've heard of it before, but there is a website called GentleChristianMothers- I'm a member there, and it's full of very supportive, attachment parenting families. I love reading about your children. You are very blessed.

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